By Hannah Wadley on 21 November 2017
‘Good times’ and ‘Divorce’ never come hand in hand and to put it bluntly it can be an emotional ‘shit-fight’ for everyone involved.
But you’ll be reassured to know you’re not alone, as the bitter truth is 1 in 3 Australian marriages end in divorce and many men find themselves dealing with the process of divorce at only 28 years old.
Dr. Harvey from House Call Doctor spoke to Blokepedia this week about how men can get their head back in the game after dealing with a divorce.
If you need to lift your spirits, or even just shift your focus for a while, give these 5 tips a go:
Over time, exercise boosts everything, including your immune system, muscles, bones, joints, heart, and skin.
It also brings back serotonin and endorphins (naturally produced hormones that make you happy).
“Your mental and physical health are interconnected. When one starts to drop, so does the other”, says Dr. Ryan.
If you hate traditional exercise, mix it up. It can help make it a lot more enjoyable and occupy your mind. An interesting mix could be rock-climbing, yoga and boxing.
It’s not about throwing yourself into exercise like a battering ram every day, but just trying to make it a part of your everyday routine.
Consistency and technique are key to exercise because you’ll see changes sooner, and protect yourself from injury.
You could do three HUGE workout sessions spread out over the week. Or just do a little bit of exercise every day.
If you need ideas: go for a run every two days; hit the gym just three times a week; go for a big hike once a week with a mate. Do what works for you.
“It’s equally important to look after your mind as well as your body, particularly during stressful times”, says Dr. Harvey.
The amount of water you need to drink depends on your weight, physical activity, and even gender. One study advises that men should drink 2.6 litres (10 cups) per day. But if you’re overweight or underweight, adjust accordingly.
“Focusing on yourself and your own health is important. Men are often reluctant to adopt new lifestyle habits and visit a regular GP,” explains Harvey.
It’s like when you fill up your car with petrol, treat yourself with the premium stuff rather than opting for the cheap ethanol option.
Do your research and look for fresh foods that give you the best nutrition, such as fruit, vegetables, and non-processed options.
Some people like diets. Some people don’t. If you are the latter, focus on reduction rather than elimination. It’s much easier to manage.
It also encourages you to treat yourself when you feel you deserve it.
“You’ll be surprised how much better you’ll feel when you start eating fresh food over high-carb, oily, and sugar-filled options. When it comes to food, everything is better in moderation,” recommends Dr. Harvey.
You need sleep to function, but you need good sleep to function well. It’s easy to make excuses when you could be watching sports, or playing video games, which is fine but just don’t stay up every night.
“If no action is taken to ensure physical well-being, men are at risk of drastic weight change, Metabolic Syndrome, cardiovascular disease, insomnia, and other chronic and mobility problems”.
“To reverse the mental and physical damage of a divorce, you need to start with the body”, says Dr. Harvey.
Dr. Ryan Harvey is the Deputy Clinical Director at House Call Doctor. Dr. Harvey is highly experienced in paediatrics, and has administered medical care to children living in remote overseas communities. He now works with many families, administering acute care when unexpected medical situations arise overnight.