10 Responses To The Phrase “Man Up”

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10 Responses To The Phrase “Man Up”

By Josh Quarmby on 28 February 2017

“MAN UP”.  From the time we are young, this phrase is tossed around between boys in the classroom, the playground, and for some, in their homes.

Man up.  It teaches us men to suppress our emotions.  We learn that feelings and the display of emotions aren’t “manly traits” .

We then move in to adulthood, hiding behind these fragile masks of stoicism and strength. For what?  Because we are men and we “man up”?

As men, it is time for us to own that we, just like women, feel.  At times we hurt.  At times we are weak.  At times we are vulnerable and scared.  And that is completely fucking OK.  These feelings do not make us any less of a man.

I recently came across a spoken-word piece by Kyle “Guante” Tran Myhre – 10 responses to the phrase man up. This powerful piece of slam poetry brilliantly addresses the phrase “man up”.  I thought it was worth sharing.  I’d like to thank Guante for allowing me to share this great piece.

10 Responses To The Phrase “Man Up”

1. Fuck you.

2. If you want to question my masculinity, like a schoolyard circle of curses, like a swordfight with lightsaber erections, save your breath. Because contrary to what you may believe, not every problem can be solved by “growing a pair.” You can’t arm-wrestle your way out of chemical depression. The CEO of the company that just laid you off does not care how much you bench. And I promise, there is no lite beer in the universe full-bodied enough to make you love yourself.

3. Man up? Oh that’s that new superhero, right? Mild-mannered supplement salesman Mark Manstrong says the magic words “MAN UP,” and then transforms into THE FIVE O’CLOCK SHADOW, the massively-muscled, deep-voiced, leather-duster-wearing super-man who defends the world from, I don’t know, feelings.

4. Of course. Why fight to remove our chains, when we can simply compare their lengths? Why step outside the box, when the box has these bad-ass flame decals on it? We men are cigarettes: dangerous, and poisonous, and stupid.

5. You ever notice how nobody ever says “woman up?” They just imply it. Because women and the women’s movement figured out a long time ago that being directly ordered around by commercials, magazines and music is dehumanizing. When will men figure that out?

6. The phrase “Man Up” suggests that competence and perseverance are uniquely masculine traits. That women—not to mention any man who doesn’t eat steak, drive a pickup truck, have lots of sex with women—are nothing more than background characters, comic relief, props. More than anything, though, it suggests that to be yourself—whether you, wear skinny jeans, listen to Lady Gaga, rock a little eyeliner, drink some other brand of light beer, or write poetry—will cost you.

7. How many boys have to kill themselves before this country acknowledges the problem? How many women have to be assaulted? How many trans people have to be murdered?

We teach boys how to wear the skin of a man, but we also teach them how to raise that skin like a flag and draw blood for it.

8. Boy babies get blue socks. Girl babies get pink socks. What about purple? What about orange, yellow, chartreuse, cerulean, black, tie-dyed, buffalo plaid, rainbow…

9. I want to be free, to express myself. Man up. I want to have meaningful, emotional relationships with my brothers. Man up. I want to be weak sometimes. Man up. I want to be strong in a way that isn’t about physical power or dominance. Man up. I want to talk to my son about something other than sports. Man up. I want to be who I am. Man up.

10. No.